Silence often golden when poles get in way

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Actions or comments can come back to haunt you. That’s particularly true if you’re a husband.
Several years ago I made a reckless comment. I told the Betterhalf, “I fail to understand how you could back-up your car and strike my vehicle . . . you knew it was parked behind yours in our own driveway!”
History did not exactly repeat itself, but it is close enough to have me eating my past critical comments and searching for an explanation, “How’d the following happen just a week ago?”
As this tale goes, for many years I’ve routinely left my car at the back of the Aurora Adopt-A-Pet animal shelter parking lot and proceeded to walk dogs. This past week I varied my routine because the Betterhalf assisted me with the dog walking. As we prepared to park the car in its usual spot, the Betterhalf suggested to park at the front of the lot which would leave the car in the shade. I consented and followed her suggestion.
At the conclusion of walking we got in the car and I started to back-up when there was this sudden jolting crash. I looked in the rearview mirror it revealed the large pole that over the years had been adjacent to my auto when parked in its previous location was now dead-centered in the back of the auto.
Not a word came from the passenger seat. That was good. Unfortunately, her facial expression spoke much louder than any words she could have ever uttered.
And what does the husband who didn’t watch where he was backing have to say? Luckily the car had a flexible fiberglass back bumper and the hot summer temperature allowed for plenty of “bumper flexing.” There was basically no damage to the auto.
Still there was this little “flexing” of attitude later.   I asked, “Remember when you did that?”  
With a twinkle in her eye she answered, “I am saving comments for a ‘Remember when?’ . . .” and gave me her,  “We are now even look and still have a curved driveway at home.’”
My only consoling conclusion was my reasoning that if she hadn’t asked me to park in the shade, this incident would have never happened. In this case, I am smart enough to know not to verbally pass along my silent thought of reasoning. Some things are best unsaid and in my personal case, silence is now golden.

RL Furse  is publisher emeritus of the News-Register

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